Birthday dinner + the deal with doctors

21 Apr

This weekend has been a little weird because Thursday was my birthday, I took Friday off for a procedure, I’ve been sick, and it’s the middle of April and snowing.

Summer/my wedding can’t come soon enough.

Thursday  Austin and I had probably the best dinner we’ve had to far in our small town, at a place called Ho-Sta-Geh (no idea how to pronounce it, don’t worry), which is situated on top of a mountain overlooking the ‘city’.

It had beautiful views!!!

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We started with a nice bottle of wine (!!)


And the crab cakes appetizer, I forgot to take a picture of (bad blogger).


Then came my salad.


I also ordered an appetizer as my meal, since I was nearly stuffed by the time it came and none of the meals really appealed to me. It was a caramelized onion and gorgonzola steak flatbread pizza. The steak was literally falling apart in my mouth.


Austin ordered some sort of fancy ravioli with chicken. I don’t know why they were green and orange but it was kind of cool!



Overall it was an amazing dinner and birthday ! XOXO


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As mentioned, I took Friday off from work (no I was not up late partying for my birthday) because I was going to Buffalo to get a procedure to help my ongoing issues with back pain and SI joint dysfunction. I talked about it WAAAAYYYYY back in December in this post, and yes I’m still dealing with it!


The cycle since December has done a little like this:

1. In pain and can’t do exercise.

2. Rest to see if helps- it doesn’t.

3. See doctor. Do prescribed PT program. for a couple of weeks.

4. Helps a little. I start exercising again.

5. Back to pain.

6. See different doctor. Do prescribed PT program for a couple of weeks.

7. Helps a little. I start exercising again.

8. Back to pain.


I’ve gone through this cycle for the past FOUR months and have seen 4 different doctors.  I have not gotten any long standing relief. Friday I had an injection in my SI joint but I’m scared that’s just really masking the problem and not fixing it. I am starting to think that there’s really just not a doctor down here in my area that can help me. Top notch doctors in this field are not flocking to rural remote areas of WNY. I cannot run, bike, or do other activities I enjoy doing because of this injury. I know that it could be worse…I could have  some terminal illness so I shouldn’t complain. However when this happened in December I had no idea that it would carry on this long. Part of the cycle is also where I get frustrated and give my SI joint the big “F U” and go on a run or bike ride or do some intense exercise anyways, because I’m sick of resting and just want to feel good again, which obviously isn’t good for it. But if I’m going to be in physical pain I feel like “What the hell, I might as well be mentally happy”. To top is off I’m trying to manage this anxiety that I’m going to gain weight and not fit in my wedding dress. (I haven’t yet, so this anxiety is completely unfounded, but it’s taking a toll mentally).


I just don’t understand why most doctors don’t really care about what is actually wrong with you. They just want to give you pills to mask the problem and send you on your way. Is it really that much to ask to have a knowledgeable doctor that really wants to help you? As a teacher I know there are good teachers and bad teachers, but I encounter far more of the former. I honestly can’t believe I’ve seen 4+ medical professionals about this problem and absolutely no one can figure out what to do. It’s frustrating physically and mentally because I want to get back to the things I love doing. I’m starting to think I will live with this for the rest of my life and just deal with it and work around it like I’ve been doing for the past four months. The only other option is SI joint surgery and I really don’t want to do that.

Sorry this post sounds a little ‘woe is me’. It’s not the end of the world, just something that frustrates me. Like I said, it could be worse. I’ll just try to keep my head up and ‘deal with it’.

What is your experience with doctors? What do you think makes a good one?


15 Responses to “Birthday dinner + the deal with doctors”

  1. joeperez April 21, 2013 at 10:28 am #

    Yes!! I had a very similar experience when dealing with digestive issues! I resorted to muscle testing to diagnose the problem, and quickly found relief through supplementation. Even though your situation is different, I would recommend checking out the Riverview Wellness Center in Oswego. There’s a link under “About” on my page, or you could google it..

  2. di @ life of di. April 21, 2013 at 4:33 pm #

    My biggest problem with doctors (and Western medicine) is the fact that they are so quick to prescribe a pill for ANYTHING. WHY?! Don’t they know that sometimes, actually in a lot of cases, what they’re treating can be fixed by lifestyle choices and diet? I’m sorry that you’re going through this situation (I know it’s different from what I’ve described) but it sounds like you’re informed enough to try and discern. Good luck girl! I’m sorry! 😦

    • Andrea @Pencils and Pancakes April 22, 2013 at 5:29 pm #

      I know what you mean…I’ve had other problems in other areas and the first thing they do is treat with pills…instead of try to find out the cause. So frustrating!

  3. olivetorun April 21, 2013 at 6:57 pm #

    I completely agree with di above. I feel like most doctors just want to give you the quick fix before truly understanding your history and current situation. I typically avoid doctors at all costs to be honest and I always do as much research as possible before I go to one.

    Sending you hugs and prayers! Hope you find a TRUE answer soon!!

  4. Brittany April 21, 2013 at 7:18 pm #

    Ohh my gosh the end of this post made me sooo mad because you are completely right! I talk about this ALL the time with my boyfriend, it’s pathetic that the doctors we have are so trained to pump people with drugs to just mask the problem!! There are other ways, but NONE of them seem to go about them, except maybe a naturopath!! I am so sorry you are still having pain and issues, I can relate to just going for a run despite the pain..I have been doing that with my bad knees haha.

    Happy belated birthday again, and your evening sounds wonderful!

  5. Jan @ Sprouts n Squats April 22, 2013 at 4:13 am #

    I’m seeing a naturopath to try and get help with my digestion issues. My doctor wasn’t helpful.

    Happy birthday for the other day! Mine was last Monday 🙂

  6. Andrea @ Andrea out loud! April 22, 2013 at 9:45 am #

    aww Im sorry you have had such issues!! And of course the whole issue with your back! I, personally, havent had too many negative experiences with doctors mostly because I have never really had to see one for anything other than the usual stuff. However, we have had so many doctor issues with my boyfriend! He has bad luck and a lot of times it really is like they just dont care and they want to get you in and out and pin it down ASAP rather than actually wanting to take the time to help in some cases.

  7. Alex @ Cookie Dough Katzen April 22, 2013 at 5:24 pm #

    Happy belated birthday! Mine was Saturday. Woo for April babies 🙂 Sorry about your pain discomfort!

  8. Lisa Eirene (@LisaEirene) April 30, 2013 at 11:43 am #

    Sorry to hear about your lingering injury. I’m dealing with one, too. Runner’s Knee since October. I pestered my regular doctor for a referral to a sports doc immediately (I didn’t want to waste time) who referred me to PT. I did that diligently and had some good months and then bad months with flare-ups. I tried orthopedic massage and acupuncture. I added yoga…I finally got an MRI and saw a specialist who ordered no lower body activity for 6 weeks. That means I can still do upper body workouts! Hang in there. Ask to see a specialist if you aren’t getting better.

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